Resilience is knowing that I am the only one who can make the decision to pick myself up.
When training in the gym, we need resistance. No muscle increases in power, without having to work against an opposing force. And maybe that’s why so many of us are unfit and overweight. We don’t enjoy having to put in effort and having to feel uncomfortable.
So instead of pursuing a life of comfort and avoidance of resistance, we need to toughen up and face our giants. That’s when our scars from the past come in handy. They reveal the suffering we might have gone through, but they also show that we got through those difficulties, and are still going. We need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves by focusing on our scars, and rather focus on the strength it took to keep going after acquiring them.
It all boils down to one of two options. On the one hand, we can live a comfortable life and avoid any resistance. But by doing so, we have no ability to overcome difficulties that come our way. On the other hand, we can start realising that life can get tough and we need the experience of our scars, to overcome the attacks that await. It’s a question of using our scars as an excuse to live as victims, or using the experience we gained from them, to live a victorious life.
Resilience is when you decide to give up on giving in.